NEW YORK METRO FOCUSING
Sunday, September 27, 2015
NY Metro Focusing meetings offer an opportunity to engage in a felt sensing, interactive exploration of topics of interest. We value diversity and welcome everyone’s voice. Our conversational process encourages slowing down, listening from a felt sensing place, and letting what we hear resonate within to bring something new and fresh, both within ourselves and within the group.
MEETING PROGRAM
4:30 pm Registration and networking with light refreshments
5:00 pm Welcome: Susan Deisroth
5:05 pm Introductions of the Evening’s Theme and its Facilitator: Larry Hurst
The Jackal Meets the Body: Crossing Focusing and Nonviolent Communication
The jackal and the giraffe are used in non-violent communication (NVC) as symbols for two distinct modes of communication. The jackal signifies that we are vainly trying to communicate without any real connection to ourselves and others. The jackal has the nasty habit of meeting its needs with criticisms and judgments, spoiling our attempts to relate fully to the situations that we encounter. The giraffe represents that which we are managing to communicate in a more life-serving way because we have learned how to make and maintain that connection. That is the core of NVC and, once we understand it, we can use it to our advantage in our Focusing practice.
In this experiential session, we will discover for ourselves how NVC can help us develop a more empathic attitude when faced with problems that require us to examine our feelings and needs. An example is how to cope with the need to shift from anger to compassion. We shall have an opportunity to draw upon our Focusing experience of the bodily felt sense - and the value of the 'pause' - to note the similarities and differences between an NVC shift and a Focusing shift, using real instances from our own lives. Finally, we will explore in conversation what changes we have noticed taking place in ourselves during the session and how these might be carried forward.
This evening’s facilitator: Charles Herr, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist, with training as a psychoanalyst at the William Alanson White Institute and as a Focusing-Oriented Psychotherapist. He also has had intensive training in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Charles has had extensive training in Nonviolent Communication, including an 9 day International Intensive Training with its founder, Marshall Rosenberg, and 5 years in a weekly Practice group with Thom Bond, Director for Education at the New York Center. Charles was Director of Psychological Services for most of his 18 years as psychologist at Gouverneur Healthcare (and for many of those years also the Director of Internship Training.) He retired from Gouverneur in September 2013 and is now in part time private practice.
6:45 pm Refreshments & Networking
7:00 pm Departure
(over please)
SAVE THE DATES FOR 2015 and 2016 NYMF MEETINGS
December 6, 2015 Sunday 4:30 7:00 pm – Joan Lavender: The Creation of an Experiential Environment
Sunday, January 31: 4:30 – 7:00 p.m.
Friday, April 1: 6:30 – 9:00 p.m.
Friday, June 10: 6:30 – 9:00.
Friday, September 30: 6:30 – 9:00.
Sunday, December 4: 4:30 – 7:00.
For other focusing oriented events in the months ahead, please visit our website: http://www.nymetrofocusing.org/calendar and the website of the Focusing Institute, http://www.focusing.org.
Planning Group:
Marcella Calabi, Cynthia Callsen, Susan Deisroth, Naomi Glicken, Larry Hurst, Sharron Kaplan and Diana Kirigin.
Friends of the Planning Group: Christine Bubbico, Judith Cobb, Viktor Raykin, Anne Shollar, Mary Jane Wilkie
This is a grassroots, member-run organization. We welcome your involvement. The planning group meetings are open to anyone interested in attending.
New York Metro Focusing Mission Statement
The mission of New York Metro Focusing is to embody and carry forward the practice of Focusing and the philosophy that supports it as developed in the work of Eugene Gendlin and others. By holding regularly scheduled meetings, NY Metro Focusing will offer members of this local geographic community ongoing opportunities to connect, share and grow in their appreciation and practice of Focusing. The group will welcome newcomers by offering them an opportunity to learn about the life-enhancing practice of Focusing. In this way, NY Metro Focusing will help to engender a thriving and visible presence for the practice of Focusing in the New York Metropolitan area.
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Sunday, September 27, 2015
NY Metro Focusing meetings offer an opportunity to engage in a felt sensing, interactive exploration of topics of interest. We value diversity and welcome everyone’s voice. Our conversational process encourages slowing down, listening from a felt sensing place, and letting what we hear resonate within to bring something new and fresh, both within ourselves and within the group.
MEETING PROGRAM
4:30 pm Registration and networking with light refreshments
5:00 pm Welcome: Susan Deisroth
5:05 pm Introductions of the Evening’s Theme and its Facilitator: Larry Hurst
The Jackal Meets the Body: Crossing Focusing and Nonviolent Communication
The jackal and the giraffe are used in non-violent communication (NVC) as symbols for two distinct modes of communication. The jackal signifies that we are vainly trying to communicate without any real connection to ourselves and others. The jackal has the nasty habit of meeting its needs with criticisms and judgments, spoiling our attempts to relate fully to the situations that we encounter. The giraffe represents that which we are managing to communicate in a more life-serving way because we have learned how to make and maintain that connection. That is the core of NVC and, once we understand it, we can use it to our advantage in our Focusing practice.
In this experiential session, we will discover for ourselves how NVC can help us develop a more empathic attitude when faced with problems that require us to examine our feelings and needs. An example is how to cope with the need to shift from anger to compassion. We shall have an opportunity to draw upon our Focusing experience of the bodily felt sense - and the value of the 'pause' - to note the similarities and differences between an NVC shift and a Focusing shift, using real instances from our own lives. Finally, we will explore in conversation what changes we have noticed taking place in ourselves during the session and how these might be carried forward.
This evening’s facilitator: Charles Herr, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist, with training as a psychoanalyst at the William Alanson White Institute and as a Focusing-Oriented Psychotherapist. He also has had intensive training in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Charles has had extensive training in Nonviolent Communication, including an 9 day International Intensive Training with its founder, Marshall Rosenberg, and 5 years in a weekly Practice group with Thom Bond, Director for Education at the New York Center. Charles was Director of Psychological Services for most of his 18 years as psychologist at Gouverneur Healthcare (and for many of those years also the Director of Internship Training.) He retired from Gouverneur in September 2013 and is now in part time private practice.
6:45 pm Refreshments & Networking
7:00 pm Departure
(over please)
SAVE THE DATES FOR 2015 and 2016 NYMF MEETINGS
December 6, 2015 Sunday 4:30 7:00 pm – Joan Lavender: The Creation of an Experiential Environment
Sunday, January 31: 4:30 – 7:00 p.m.
Friday, April 1: 6:30 – 9:00 p.m.
Friday, June 10: 6:30 – 9:00.
Friday, September 30: 6:30 – 9:00.
Sunday, December 4: 4:30 – 7:00.
For other focusing oriented events in the months ahead, please visit our website: http://www.nymetrofocusing.org/calendar and the website of the Focusing Institute, http://www.focusing.org.
Planning Group:
Marcella Calabi, Cynthia Callsen, Susan Deisroth, Naomi Glicken, Larry Hurst, Sharron Kaplan and Diana Kirigin.
Friends of the Planning Group: Christine Bubbico, Judith Cobb, Viktor Raykin, Anne Shollar, Mary Jane Wilkie
This is a grassroots, member-run organization. We welcome your involvement. The planning group meetings are open to anyone interested in attending.
New York Metro Focusing Mission Statement
The mission of New York Metro Focusing is to embody and carry forward the practice of Focusing and the philosophy that supports it as developed in the work of Eugene Gendlin and others. By holding regularly scheduled meetings, NY Metro Focusing will offer members of this local geographic community ongoing opportunities to connect, share and grow in their appreciation and practice of Focusing. The group will welcome newcomers by offering them an opportunity to learn about the life-enhancing practice of Focusing. In this way, NY Metro Focusing will help to engender a thriving and visible presence for the practice of Focusing in the New York Metropolitan area.
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